Why Family is So Important

I think we can all agree that family can be hard sometimes.   Families can be unreasonable, unruly, and just downright annoying at times.  We all have that in-law (or, in my case, the OUT-law), or that cousin, or that brother or sister that you just can’t seem to see eye to eye on.  I get it, we all do, but I want to highlight how important it is to keep the peace as often as possible, especially when visiting your North Carolina family during the holidays.

You never really know what someone is going through. Some people use tactics like cruelty or rudeness as a defense mechanism to protect themselves from others, or because their brain is wired to react a certain way when they feel uncomfortable.  I wonder how many of these types of people would learn to cope a different way if we were all a little kinder or a little more understanding of their nature.  Next time your cousin decides to have a knee jerk reaction about a topic, try to cut them some slack.  I promise you’ll feel a whole lot better about yourself if you do!  Besides, it’s the holidays we never know how many Christmas Eve’s or New Year’s Days we have with the people we call family.   It’s not easy, but we all could stand to be a little less judgmental of each other.   

Secondly, think about the other family members you might affect with a judgement or a slight.   Visiting your Wake County relatives and getting frustrated you can never find common ground with that brother in-law of yours?  Think about your sibling; they’re the one who married the son of a gun! Try to put on a happy face for their sake.   I’m sure they’d be very appreciative if you were more proactive about sticking your hand out to make him or her feel more comfortable with your family.   Didn’t work the first time you tried?  Keep trying: it won’t go unnoticed, and eventually you’ll get through!  Think about your grandparents or parents when the family gets together.  These are cherished moments for them and they just want happy memories with the family they created.   Just because your Granddad is a scrooge doesn’t mean you can’t ask him about some of the stories he has or some the life experiences he has gone through.   Grab a deck of cards and ask him to play some gin rummy. I’m sure he’d be up for it. Just don’t make him even more of a scrooge by taking all his money.   

The point is, it’s the Holidays. Try to be cheerful even when it’s hard.  Do it for the sake of your family, and, most of all do it for yourself.   And if you truly can’t stand being around a family member, drop them off at the Kima Real Estate Group’s office in Wake Forest. Keep an eye on our blog for upcoming holiday events in the Triangle you can get everyone out of the house to attend.  We’ll take them off your hands for a while.   

Talk about torture!   

Ryan Buscher 

303-570-4380 

Kima Real Estate Group  

Keller Williams Preferred Realty